I get increasingly annoyed when I see people using prayer as an excuse to do nothing.
Recently, a high school friend had a death in the family, reported on Facebook and asking for funeral fund donations.
Naturally, I responded with a donation and something along the lines of, "I am so sorry...please let me know if there is anything I can DO...in addition to donating money."
99% of the other responses were along the lines of, "You are in my thoughts and prayers." Translation: "I know it sucks, but don't expect me to do anything for you besides say I am going to think about it and pray...and chances are I won't even remember to pray. Now @#$& off."
I call bullshit on that. I know some people may say I am being too harsh. The thinking praying folks might very well be donating money or helping the family out.
But prayer and thought are useless, and saying you are going to do it means it is the primary way you are going to "help out." And if it is the only contribution you are going to make, you are useless to the grieving family. If you really care, ask what you can DO to help. Forget prayer. Prayer does not do shit and that's been proven by science.